Beam Me Up Softboi’s Iona David examines the different types of softbois on dating apps

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Beam Me Up Softboi’s Iona David examines the different types of softbois on dating apps

This week on Millennial Love, we’re thrilled to be joined by writer and creator of the iconic Beam Me Up Softboi Instagram account, Iona David.

Iona unpacks what it means to be a softboi, how to spot one, and why we should be wary of dating them. She also recounts her own dating experiences which might have included one or two softbois…

Iona’s book, Is This Love Or Dopamine?: A Deeply Unofficial Study of Dating in the Digital Age, is out now.

Check out Millennial Love on all major podcast platforms and Independent TV, and keep up to date @Millennial_Love on Instagram and TikTok.

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